The process of Separation Collaboration allowed us to express ourselves, our feelings and our wants about the future, yet creating boundaries of respect in the way we spoke to one another and acknowledging the emotional pain we were both in, without delving too deeply into that, so as to continue to keep the ball rolling in moving forward in the separation process. It was an honest, raw and real approach where both parties were heard.
Jacqueline was amazing at supporting us through this massive change in our relationship and our family.
Jacqueline was amazing at supporting us through this massive change in our relationship and our family. She had a wonderful way of providing the facts in a compassionate, non adversarial manner. This focused the conversations onto the future outcome rather than past hurts.
We wanted to separate amicably and not ruin our future relationship by fighting each other using lawyers – especially because we will be in each others lives frequently as we continue to work together & raise our kids.
It’s an awful situation that you just don’t need to make worse. Collaborating together with Jacqueline helped us focus on the key priorities (our children), understand & agree to what is fair and move quickly towards an outcome that both of us can accept.
Jacqueline mediated very well and we could practically agree on many items quickly. I shudder to think about the time & cost this would of incurred using individual representation – let alone the emotional drain this would be on your life.
Jacqui was able to take an emotional, complex situation and distil it down to the pieces that needed to be addressed at the time as opposed to barraging us with huge chunks of information and administration which could be at times overwhelming.
She was empathetic but continued to ensure we all stayed focused on producing a good outcome for our children and for ourselves. She was supportive but not biased in anyway, in fact went to extreme lengths to ensure she was balanced and both parties received the same information.
Jacqui made a difficult matter far easier by her guidance and practical advice. She always started with what was right for the children which was exactly how we wanted to manage our separation.
Jacqueline helped us navigate such a difficult time always pulling our focus back to what was in the best interests of our child. She guided us through future scenarios we hadn’t even considered and offered a framework to set up a co parenting arrangement that was as amicable and fair to both parties as possible. Her listening skills were excellent which in particular helped us move through the difficult times.
In summary, I believe she helped us avoid court!
ABC Drive – Radio – “I just get by”: What happens when you split later in life
On 24th April, Jacqueline Wharton spoke with Aaron Kearney at ABC Newcastle about the repercussions of a marriage breakdown later in life - emotionally, practically and financially. Click here to listen to the